Does My Teenage Girl Need Help?
Top 10 Warning Signs that a Student Might Need Residential Care
- Your daughter refuses to abide by anything you say or request. Her resulting behaviors put her and your family in danger or high risk leading to constant fear or stress in the home.
- Your daughter displays behavior that is a marked change from what has been normal. This can include sleeping too little or too long, forgetfulness, lack of motivation, aggression, depression, anxiety, grades slipping, hating what she once loved or loving what she once hated, always wanting to be with friends or away from home, or avoiding friends altogether and spending too much time alone.
- Your daughter has become increasingly disrespectful, dishonest, disobedient and openly displays rebellion, no longer sharing her feelings or caring about the consequences.
- There is blatant ignorance or profound rebellion toward boundaries, belief systems, or the rules of the home. This can be shown in passive-aggressive behaviors or open defiance that is unusually excessive for your teen.
- There are outright or veiled threats of suicide, self-harm, excessive risk-taking, drug experimentation/use/abuse, or sexual promiscuity. There is seemingly a loss of a conscience or moral compass.
- Treatment by your daughter of other people, pets, or belongings is threatening or out of control.
- Your daughter thinks she is the center of your family. She shows blatant disregard for the feelings of other family members, their time, or their possessions.
- Months of counseling is providing little or no positive progress for your daughter.
- Your daughter refuses to do anything with the family and displays a growing hatred for the family.
- You cannot keep your daughter away from peers who are obviously leading a lifestyle counter to your beliefs. Your teen is buying into their destructive behavior and attitudes.
A Word to Parents
When children start spinning out of control, they usually exhibit many different signs which parents need to watch for. Unfortunately, many parents often write off these signs as normal adolescent behavior. As a result, they may not realize that their daughter is into drugs or other risky behavior until it is too late. So, how can you as a parent know for sure whether or not your daughter is in danger? Simple…by understanding that every child is in danger of this. The parent who says “not my daughter” is the same parent who might miss all the signs that their child has started experimenting with drugs, promiscuity, illegal activities, or other risky behavior. Often they will stay in this state of denial till their child is in real trouble. Without an early intervention program, a child could potentially continue in risky behavior until they become an adult trapped in dysfunctional lifestyle.
Once they recognize a problem, parents often try a number of different strategies to help their teen. Common attempts include one or more of the following:
- Moving to a new town in order to escape bad environments and/or negative peer influences
- Counseling and mentoring sessions
- Pulling a child out of school and trying home-schooling or an alternative school setting
- Taking a child off a sports team or special activity due to negative peer influences
- Enrolling in short-term programs or rehabs
- Mental health facility stays
- Sending a child to live with another family member
If these strategies and other attempts at home to produce genuine change have not been effective, it might be wise to consider a residential program that can provide the focused care that can help your teen make a turnaround.
Equipped for Lasting Heart Change
Boise Girls Academy is committed to providing an atmosphere that creates an arena for change. Our approach is loving and non-threatening, building trust and relationships as well as several forms of counseling and 24/7 care. Our program provides an opportunity for each student to refocus and assess her life decisions and allows her the opportunity to choose the abundant life Christ has to offer.
Please contact us at (208) 375-4636 for further information.